Comments on: The March For Democracy

By: Sam

Sam — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 00:52:50 +0000

I am astounded that the march advertises it is family friendly? What?
It’s like the KKK inviting African Americans to their march.

Zero tolerance I say. And how does it change societies view on children if so many still advocate hitting children instead of setting firm, consistent boundaries without the violence?

By: Mrs Dianne Woodward

Mrs Dianne Woodward — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 05:52:15 +0000

Articles Garth George and Sue Reid wrote in the NZ Herald along with Mayor Michael Laws comments that since the passing of 2007 antismacking law 22 innocent little babies have died. Familyfirst are the voice for 9 out of 10 Kiwis who believe like me it is only a cruel uncontrolled violent monster that kills an innocent child it is never ever A LIGHT SMACK or TIME OUT but horrific anger gone mad that kills our darling children. A calm self controlled caregiver warns their will be a consequence should their childs unacceptable behaviour continue so an Adult grown up sets a fine example to their misbehaving child that the Child Has Rights to decide the consequence of their actions. Sam just let us focus on educating rotten parents not the majority of good parents who may occassionally use a light smack.

By: Sam

Sam — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 04:23:49 +0000

Dianne I am assuming from your response you are do not have a very indept understanding of child psychology? I think your opinion is probably based on deindividuation.

If you are using these postive methods you have listed but still at times smacking your child, you are responding with anger and frustration, which is an undesirable behaviour from an adult. Children primarily learn by imitation, so our own behaviour must always be one of calm and self control. And the key fundamental is that unconditonal love does not constitute physical harm in any way ever in a relationship.

I also disagree with your “sad look” tactic. Using guilt based fear and sulking by an adult will only be mirrored by your child in the future. Remember that we are the grown ups and need to set a fine example.

And just because you use capital letters throughout your entire comment, it doesn’t make your point anymore valid. Your reasoning is still weak and you continue to contradict yourself by promoting positive parenting and then condoning harm towards children.